It’s Women’s History Month.
I’ve never given it much thought in years past,
Which is strange because I’m a
Woman
Who cares about
History.
In the media,
Provocative questions in order to promote a
High click-through rate:
“Is feminism necessary?”
“Are women losing ground?”
A few key statistics with
Supportive colloquialisms.
Lately, it’s my church where
I’ve been
Experiencing
Women.
It occurs to me that
Church
Is the one place in my life where I’m around
Women
Who are older than me.
My workplace is young,
My friends are
All around my age.
At church,
I like to sit a few pews behind a
Pair or
Small flock of older women.
I like to behold their
Hair.
Especially the women who
Let their hair grow long and
Prismatic:
Alabaster and ivory with
Ribbons of
Glinting silver,
And a few threads of ocher or coal.
I was at a
Women’s retreat recently with some of those women.
One of the workshops was a panel discussion with four women,
Each representing a
Decade of life from their
60s to their 90s.
The title of panel was something like
“Growing old gracefully in a
Culture that idolizes youth.”
The four women spoke in ascending order of age
In that elevated, cottony tone of an
Older woman’s voice.
The oldest woman —
98 years old, I believe —
Stood up to speak.
(The others remained seated.)
You know what they didn’t talk much about?
Husbands.
Children.
Grandchilden.
Careers.
You know what they did talk about?
Their own childhoods,
And their women friends,
Now.
It was as if they had
Finished with the
Vast expenditure of
Energy
In the middle part of their lives,
And they knew their jobs were largely done
There.
And what was left were the
Two bookends of their lives:
The treasured memories of the beginning,
And the treasured friends of the present.
From this
Woman
In the thick of
Kids/career/husband:
Point well taken.